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Sheldon’s grandpa has been using an online weight control program that is very similar to Weight Watchers. In this one, he talks about how he would rather do the online program than meet with people and talk about feelings.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried while eating. I talk about it here:
Until I am able to deal with my emotions without food, I will always have problems getting to a healthy weight. This is something that I still haven’t mastered, so if any of you have any ideas (besides writing in my journal, because I do that A LOT) please leave them in the comments.
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February 18th, 2009 at 7:18 am
“Until I am able to deal with my emotions without food, I will always have problems getting to a healthy weight.”
Laura,
I’m so glad that you’ve asked for suggestions with this and, while a response from your online readership probably won’t be the cure, you never know.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve read your blog and said to myself “that was such a negative statement”. You would not believe the power of words, especially those that are typed and can read over and over.
How can this effect you? Well, if you’re anything like me, you read your entry a few times before posting it.
How can effect me? I come here everyday and, sometimes, I read what you type. 😉
The line I quoted above is a perfect example of a negative statement. By writing and reading “…I will always have problems getting to a healthy weight…”, you are convincing yourself of that fact.
Try speaking in the positive. If it’s a muscle you don’t flex often, it may be difficult at first, but once you’ve done it for a while it will be second nature. It’s not “the cure”, but my experience has taught me that it’s a small step to a healthy head.
It’s your blog and I’m certainly not trying to act as editor, but coming here everyday I see only the words you choose for me to see. In person, you may be Miss Sunshine.
Know that my advice comes with respect and hope. Positive self talk might make you feel crazy at first (and definately don’t speak outloud to yourself on a crowded bus), but it can do so much.
Best of luck.
Your loyal reader, Ernie
February 18th, 2009 at 8:41 am
I totally agree with the above poster. I always thought I was going to be a chubby girl after gaining weight in highschool, nothing I did seemed to work to get the pounds off. I have since lost the weight, but it has taken A LOT of soul searching to really figure out why I ate compulsivley. Only untill I started going to councelling was I able to finally get my emotions in check and realize that its not about the food at all. It was about feeling lonely, angry, and frustrated.
February 18th, 2009 at 10:20 am
Ernie,
Thank you so much for comment. You’re RIGHT! I do have a lot of internal negativity that I’m constantly fighting against. There have been so many times that I have edited an entry to make it stated in the positive. Here’s one that slipped through the cracks and I didn’t even notice it.
I can’t wait until it is easy to stay positive. It’s one of those things that I’m still working on.
Thank you for being such a loyal reader and willing to call me out when I screw up.
Best,
Laura
February 18th, 2009 at 10:25 am
There seems to be a pattern here because I agree with both Ernie and Bobbi. My 1st thought Laura was to suggest that maybe instead of just writing (or in place of writing) about your emotions you should confront them (which is basically what Bobbi has stated). I’ve heard this saying a lot that “you can’t change what you don’t confront”. Bobbi mentioned counseling (that was her way of confronting her issues), I personally had to start just telling myself the truth about “why I ate the way I did” and stop making excuses for it. And then asked myself what I was going to do about my weight and health. Basically, I had to become my own best friend. What I’ve stated might seem like I’m making it easier said than done; I’m really not. It’s work, it’s practice with new habits and a daily renewal of my thought process.
You can do it Laura!!!
February 20th, 2009 at 1:09 am
This is why I love reading your blog. I feel like I can relate. I don’t have trouble obsessing about food anymore since I gave up and eat whatever I want! I also gained about 30 pounds on my plan, so it may not be the best answer.
I am in a group called “The Solution” it takes 2 years and teaches people to nurture and set limits with themselves. It has been proven in studies published in scientific journals to be effective at long term weight loss. It’s good for many things and I’m primarily in the group for other reasons, but if it helps me lose weight without dieting, that will be a great side effect!
I think you are awesome. I’m so glad you share here. I feel less alone when I read your blog.